By Kemi Amushan, (Counsellor, GurdianWoman)
Sometimes When we Suspect if the person we are dating is using us for sex, they actually are. If you are a woman looking for love and a serious Relationship, the idea that a man could be using you for sex is totally upsetting. There's nothing like wrong with casual sex if thats what you want. But, feeling like you are being used for sex is a heart breaking reality many women have to face. So, you might be wondering if there is a way to know for sure.
There are a number of tips offs that a man is not genuinely interested in you. If you notice any of these
> If your time together always involves ending up in the bedroom and eating some takeout once in a while, then he's likely interested only in sex. Men who are looking for a loving relationship want to enjoy all aspecst of being with you. They want to show you off and look forward to being seen with you in public.
> You have been seeing him for months, but haven't met his friends or family. He's not blending you into his life which let you know he doesn't consider this a serious Relationship.
> If your time together feels rushed or he has one leg in his trousers the minutes he is done with you, thats a surefire signal he is using you for sex. A man who is genuinely interested wants to linger for a while, talk to you and enjoy the afterglow. But when he is always rushing out the door, tell him not to bother coming back.
And if you want to avoid being used again,
> Hold off on intimate, Wait to see if he is interested in getting to know you before Sleeping with him.
> Don't use sex to get a man interested. Some women think if they have sex with a man, he'll come back for more. This heart breaking game does not work to cement your relationship. So, even if he does return, it doesn't mean you are the only one he is Sleeping with.
> More importantly, know that you are worth waiting for. Never ever allow yourself to be feel pressured. There is no reason to sleep with a man that isn't married to you.
Above all, know you are a fabulous woman, worthy of love and respect. Honour yourself to attract better men, and say no to any man that diminishes your self esteem.